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UNDERSTANDING YOUR SEXUALITY
WHAT IS SEXUALITY?
Sex education is defined as a person’s understanding about themselves, generally, their gender, attitudes, beliefs and values about their identity, relationships, intimacy and the feelings they have about these things. That is to say that sexuality is not just about sexual intercourse, it connects to different aspects of you and your relationship with people. What’s more? Every person’s sexuality is peculiar to them and is often changing, hence, how you describe your sexuality is totally a matter of your own understanding and awareness per time.
Facts to know about sexuality
- The way you feel about your body have great effect on your overall self-confidence and view of life.
- Lack of awareness of sexuality results to a great percentage of personal mistakes which in turn results in emotional challenges at latter times of a person’s life.
- The most important sexual organ is the brain and not the genitals.
- The sexual fantasies you experience are normal, so relax, you are not evil; those are simply expression of your sexuality. However, it doesn’t mean you should be bent on satisfying them.
- It is okay to feel like being close to another human being, but you need to understand that it is a normal expression of your sexuality. You should understand it and control or master it.
This is why you need to understand that every part of your body and each phase of your growth is good and purposeful, it is not shameful or bad. While it is normal, you need to learn about it so you can understand yourself better. Don’t allow anybody to abuse you, you have a right to your body to say NO to any sexual advances that you do not want to permit.
WHAT AND WHY OF SEX EDUCATION
Since adolescents encounter many problems in relation to their sexuality, physically, emotionally and otherwise, knowledge about these experiences need to be taught. Most young people, when they start noticing changes in their bodies feel ashamed and out of place. Hence, the need for Sex education which teaches about self-acceptance.
Sex education, therefore, aims to develop and strengthen the ability of young people to make conscious, satisfying, healthy and respectful choices regarding relationships, sexuality and emotional and physical health (WHO, 2010). Again, reproductive ability starts once puberty hits. Hence, sex education should start before puberty and gradually increase the information according to age. Sex education helps to strengthen values and improve self-reflection.
CONSEQUENCES OF LACK OF SEX EDUCATION
Sex education prepares adolescents for adulthood and exposes signs of an abusive relationship or sexual violence. As a girl, you have perfect control over every area of your sexuality; You have a right to say NO to an abuser and enforce it. And it doesn’t matter who the abuser is, whether it is your father, grandfather, uncle, cousin or anyone at all. Girls should be able to standup for themselves. The lack of this knowledge creates the opposite effect and leaves girls suffering in silence and not understanding their own bodies. Treating issues around sex and indeed sexuality as a taboo that nobody should talk about creates an unnecessary secrecy about it which, eventually, pushes young girls to explore sex out of the curiosity to know what “everybody knows”.
In some countries, there are men who believe HIV can be cured by having sex with a virgin. But this only victimizes girls even more as they end up contracting HIV from someone they should have stayed away from. Rates of sexually transmitted infections (STIs), including gonorrhea, chlamydia, and syphilis to name a few, increases when people have poor information or knowledge about their sexuality.
ISSUES AROUND SEX
In adolescence, sex takes place without caution and so are the consequences that follows it. Therefore, it is not okay for anyone to have sex out of a sense of obligation or fear. The urge you feel is just a feeling and like all feelings they go away, especially if you refocus. Never make any permanent decision based on a temporary emotion. You can control your sexual urges.
Note that, abstinence until you are ready, emotionally, physically, spiritually and even financially is still the best piece of information out there as far as sex is concerned. The adolescents have a maximum sex drive and the likelihood to get pregnant starts as soon as you hit puberty. Adolescents need to learn that and understand the importance of deciding to protect themselves and define when and how their sexuality will evolve.
What’s more? Adolescents are more fertile than adults, thus an adolescent female is more likely to get pregnant than an adult. Note that, dear adolescents, you are not invincible. Also, adolescents can still get sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) like the human papillomavirus (genital warts), genital herpes, syphilis, and other STDs even if you wear barrier contraceptive(condom). Oil-based lubricants can damage your latex condoms and still expose you to the risk of STIs and pregnancy so, use water-based lubricants instead. Contrary to popular belief, you can still get pregnant on your period. The believe that while technically you are shedding your uterine lining and the egg is going along with it as you menstruate, there is still the possibility for sperm to meet an egg,” says sex and relationship expert Megan Stubbs, EdD, ACS.
ANATOMY OF THE FEMALE VULVA
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The vulva is a single term used to describe all of the external female genital organs. These organs include the Mons pubis, labia major, labia minor, the clitoris, the opening of the vagina, urethral opening.
Mons Pubis – The mons is the fleshy part above your vulva. It’s the part that is covered with pubic hair after puberty.
Labia – The two labia form an oval shape around the vagina like the lips covering the internal sections where the vagina is located. Note: the external part of your genital is the vulva and not vagina. The labia minor is mostly smaller than the labia major.
Clitoris – At the point where the labia major meet is the clitoris.
WHY DO WOMEN MENSTRUATE?
Menstruation starts as your body prepares you for adulthood and your ovaries get ready for reproduction. Every normal woman has two ovaries to the left and the right and they produce thousands of eggs. Every month 15-20 eggs are set out for a journey of who matures first. One matures (two may mature at once, which is one of the reasons why we can have twins) so, if fertilization does not occur after some days, the lining of the womb (that was preparing for a Zygote) all are degraded to blood, water, organic chemical and shed during your period. It happens in a monthly interval from puberty until menopause (ceasing of regular menstrual cycles), except during pregnancy. This discharging process lasts about 3-7 days. And that is the menstrual cycle.
- Change your sanitary napkin/pad every 4-8 hours
- Wash yourself properly with water
- Don’t use soaps or vagina hygiene products
- Discard the sanitary napkin/pad properly
- Stick to one method of sanitation; Tampon or Sanitary Napkin/Pad
- WHO Regional Office for Europe and BZgA. 2010. Standards for Sexuality Education in Europe: A framework for policy makers, education and health authorities and specialists. Cologne, BZgA.
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